YOU SUCK! Have a nice day!

How did you feel when you read the title of this post? Of course I do not believe that about you, unless you are among the few that I truly believe that about but I digress. The intent behind that title was to illicit a reaction. Was your immediate thought, "so do you"? How about "no I don't"? Or did you say, "yeah I kinda do"? I am sure there were some more creative responses and I do hope that you will share them with me by commenting on this post. So which of the above do you feel was the better answer? a) So do you? b) No I don't c) yeah I kinda do? My answer D) None of the above (I know that wasn't a choice - I wanted to be the only one who got the answer right, Hey- it's my blog) The point is these are real ways we deal with life's challenges. Now most of us do not experience someone coming up to us and telling us, "You Suck" to our faces but what about when our boss say's he did not like the proposal you stayed up to 5:00 am working on or when the person of our dreams, our for sure soul mate leaves us for someone else. You get the idea... do we somewhere deep down say to ourselves, "I suck" "I'm not good enough." How we respond when someone or something tells us or makes us feel like we suck is the most important factor in how we deal with life's little zingers. In response A) we revert to our childhood automatic defense mechanism. I recall this saying we used to have "I'm rubber you're glue whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you." That's pretty good in theory but the problem is, or my problem was when I used to be called "the jolly green giant" because I was taller than the other kids on the block, is that although I said the magic words - I still internalized the teasing and would feel hurt. So deflecting is not the best way to handle the poison arrows that penetrate our minds. B. No I don't - Denial - well that's always a winner and would have been the best answer of the three but.... do we believe the denial or is it just a way of running away. Remember, when you were a child and a bully would tell something embarrassing about you, "you wet the bed" whether or not its true did not matter to us as the other kids laughed, we would deny the accusation and run away crying. So we denied it but...our actions indicated guilt. Hopefully, by reading the words 'you suck" didn't send you running and crying but the point is that the accusation still causes an emotional energy reaction within our body creating that same sense of guilt and agreement within our minds. C. Yeah - I kinda do - this of course is the worst response. We have made up our minds that we are less than enough, we are inferior and because we believe it - it becomes a reality in our minds.

"If you think you can or think you can't...either way you are right"....... David Wolfe For the purposes of this post I would modify the quote to say "whether you think you are or whether you think you aren't either way you are right." Basically the bottom line goes back to the early writings of James Allen back in 1902 in his famous book "As a man thinketh"

Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes,And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes.The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills,Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills: —He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass:Environment is but his looking-glass.This book was titled after the verse in the Bible from the Book of Proverbs chapter 23 verse 7, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” The list of authors and motivational speakers that have in some way or another espoused these truths are numerous.

In the popular DVD/Book "The Secret" teaches whether it is money, relationships or health :"You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings."

So the answer, my friends to the question asked is You Only Suck if You Believe You Suck!. Simple! If you don't believe it then there is no reason to give it any energy. If someone told me "I suck" today, I would laugh and probably make an off color joke, but that is my way of dealing with the zingers that are thrown at me I laugh. The saying goes that "laughter is good for the soul" so for me laughing at a negative comment or finding humor in a stressful situation etc allows me to not take it seriously and therefore not give it any energy in which to manifest in my life. Now, I am not saying when your boss or significant other says something to you that you do not agree with you should laugh at them, but the idea is not to internalize it, do not let it get into your mind, your soul, your spirit. Do not give it the energy to become your reality.